QUESTION No. 2
Does your “number” really matter to your partner?
Of course it does! I mean it not in the super-duper negative way like judgers do. You “number” actually tells a lot about you, your character, your fears, your personality. According to the movie, What’s your Number?, at an average, women find husbands at number 10. (For US women). And those who exceed 20, will most likely never marry at all. And so the lead character (Anna Farris) who was at number 20 already, sets out the hunt for her exes, trying to avoid an increase in her number.
So, what does your number say about you? Well, it depends actually. Some girls who started counting at a younger age may have developed some sort of pseudo-confidence-which-is-actually-insecurity character which leads them to take on the challenge of having a greater number than girls her age. There also other scenarios like if your number 1 and/or 2 is not a boyfriend or technically saying, someone you have no romantic feelings with. It might set your mind of how sex could be actually done casually with anyone even without the clichéd feelings most people talk about. With this, there would be no holds barred and thus, increasing your number.
I do not know the technical qualifications of a nymphomaniac. So I would just be speaking of high number and low numbers and no branding will be made here in this article.
On the other hand, people with low numbers might also not necessarily mean they’re not having troubles. Normally, people who engage with their number 1s at the right time and right feeling but not necessarily the right commitment, would develop the need for the connection thereby setting their standards for the next number. Still, some who have low numbers may have trouble with their self-esteem, insecurities with their bodies, and the likes.
Now, how does your partner perceive your character through your number? Let me count the ways..
First, it will tell him your level of libido. He will have both positive and negative impressions on this depending on his character and experiences and how much he’d known you. Negative would be like you have not been taking care of yourself, you let many guys take over you, and you lost your self-respect. In addition, there would be trust issues on your relationship. He would be thinking you are an easy-to-get girl who would be hooking up on other boys while still in your relationship. If your man has a relatively lower number than you do, then it might affect his confidence on your intimacy as a couple. Technically, you will have more experiences than he does. Or, it might work the other way around. Although you have more experience than him, he might as well know better on how to make you feel special when he gets intimate with you since your background is more on casual affairs. Next scenario is if he has the same or relatively larger number than you do. Generally, guys with big numbers are acceptable. But if you have a relationship with them, there would still be trust issues. Worst is when you try to strike him, he will fire back at you. And your argument would never end.
On the brighter side, your partner might actually perceive it positively. This might let him know that you only need the feeling of being loved by someone hence, the high number. And all you want him to do is stay after the first night. And the next. And the next. On the naughty side, he may perceive this as an excitement due to the high number of experience you’ve had. And, not to mention, the excitement that he might be the one who could finally change you. But that is a rare case. People around you have always something to say. And it is so hard living around these noisy/nosy people.
It depends on you and your partner on how you will let your numbers affect you. If you promise someone that he/she is gonna be the last, keep that promise and eventually, all those numbers are not gonna make sense anymore.
QUESTION No. 2